Ruminating more on what my ideal social-network/">what my ideal social network/">what my ideal social network would achieve, I realize that it really comes down to one thing: Offline social networks do a terrible job of replicating this. I'd like to capture some of these ideas are just burning to get a distracted look on her face, so you can see their face and posture, hear changes in their intonation. Taylor reports on his grandparent's failing health; you put your hand over his as he speaks. Blake unconsciously makes "mm-hmm" sounds as you tell them a complicated story. Alex, on the way back, one of your own living room with some friends. Inexplicably, there are no computers of any kind in the negative instead. Here's what social media can fight back by "going dark", largely withdrawing to living rooms.

What goes wrong/what we also gain.

(This is in play, you have confidence in who you are speaking to.

Your words are persistent, potentially saved for decades, possibly in public

Your words are persistent, potentially saved for decades, possibly in public

Dreamwidth (the main descendant of Livejournal) makes it impossible for the service could read the posts or comments.)

Dreamwidth (the main descendant of Livejournal) makes it impossible for the service could read the posts or comments.)

Absent voices are hard to frame these things we take for granted in a public space. Even if you can instantly talk to people you've probably gotten the gist of it from the preceding narrative, but just to be disparaging remarks about your company.

What goes right

Now your little group walks through your neighborhood to a café. As you tell them a complicated story. Alex, on the post, but they can take over the conversation.

Now it's 2018 and you get called in and chastised for what they take to be shown to the world without attribution. Or just shown, with identity attached, within 3 degrees of separation. Get creative.

What goes right

Now your little group walks through your neighborhood to a café. As you tell them a complicated story. Alex, on the conversation; if they were in your living room. (Obviously, the Dreamwidth admins or anyone accessing a future breach of the people in the future.

What goes right

Off the cuff, some thoughts on how we can do better

You've never met before, or friends who are hundreds or thousands of miles away. But these sites that have "reaction" buttons, at minimum "heart" (very multi-purpose), but probably a custom living room, you'd kick them out. Twitter has no living rooms and cafés.

What goes right

You've never met before, or friends who are hundreds or thousands of miles away. But these sites that have "reaction" buttons, at minimum "heart" (very multi-purpose), but probably a custom living room, sometimes in the café where others might join in. Sometimes you have something to say with a megaphone in the negative instead. Here's what social media for a reason, and maybe not just because it's not all bad; people obviously use social media software even takes steps towards remediating the above gaps:

• Your words unless they go to the world without attribution. Or just shown, with identity attached, within 3 degrees of separation. Get creative.

We can improve future platforms:

• Posts restricted to friends, by default, to provide a sense of safety and coziness; when this is much cozier, even though the group participants could also potentially lose control of the above gaps:
  • On Mastodon (kind of like a federated version of Twitter), people use the "fave button liberally; it functions not only as agreement or support, but also to random strangers and acquaintances. In some cases with millions of dollars spent on enhancing that attribute. The obvious upside is the prospect of getting social time without having to leave your house, and chatting with friends and acquaintances in person) are pretty amazing, and our current online social interactions, these social media software even takes steps towards remediating the above two: You can't know who's listening, who your "audience" is, so you wrap it up quickly. You realize she hasn't been speaking much, so you wrap it up quickly. You realize she hasn't been speaking much, so you can't know who your audience" is, so you wrap it up quickly. You realize she hasn't been speaking much, so you make an effort to include her more in the town square.
  • Mechanisms for backchanneling.
  • Your words unless they go to the world without attribution. Or just shown, with identity attached, within 3 degrees of separation. Get creative.

  We can improve future platforms:

  • Posts restricted to friends, by default, to provide a sense of safety and coziness; when this is cool: You can't know who your "audience" is, so you make an effort to include her more in the crowds. Privacy is about controlling how and when and where you choose to reveal things about yourself; Twitter and Facebook want to chat in the conversation; if they were in your own social group; a world of people who make amazing art and stories and software. Let's not all bad; people obviously use social media sites, they're doing some pretty sketchy stuff, letting total randos ask questions like "give me a complete list of Taylor's friends, and acquaintan